“Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.” ~ Jim Rohn
Too often we miss the moments in our lives that lead to the ultimate goal.
Working with different personalities gives me perspective into their struggles and often they are unhappy as they wait for the ‘prize.’ Acceptance from friends, teachers, coaches, that boss and family. Enrollment in college, being chosen for a role or position on a team. Every day becomes waiting for the goal versus enjoying the ride. Here’s the thing, the ride is the prize. Having health to get up every day and deciding to make it the best day ever is the choice. It’s not until you understand your time is limited that you’ll enjoy the ride to the fullest. In my pursuit of happiness, I do something for me every day. I journal, walk Goose (my dog) and take that time to express gratitude for my family, friends and the place I live. Next, I focus on what is good and right about my clients and those I choose to work with. Yes, there will always be someone who gets under my skin as I have a passionate spirit for kindness and get pissed off at dunderheads, but I remind myself to ‘chill.’ I also read a lot about working with others. Here’s a great book if you struggle with the people in your life:
‘Dealing with People You Can’t Stand’
- Accept that you don’t need to be friends with all of your employees. …
- Figure out why they bother you. …
- Remain positive with them. …
- Focus on how they benefit your team. …
- Don’t let emotions hinder your leadership.
Be part of the community through causes. Choose something that tugs at your heart strings. Relay for Life, Community Outreach Alliance, San Clemente Junior Women’s Club are a few I enjoy. There’s something about focusing away from ‘me’ that brings an understanding of others and of course fosters relationships with like minded people. I’ve met life long friends along my philanthropic ride.
Philanthropy “the love of humanity”—love in the sense of caring for, nourishing, developing, or enhancing; humanity in the sense of “what it is to be human,” or “human potential.” In modern practical terms, it is “private initiatives for public good, focusing on quality of life”—balancing the social-scientific aspect emphasized in the 21st century, with the long-traditional and original humanist core of the word’s ancient coinage. This formulation distinguishes it from business (private initiatives for private good, focusing on material prosperity) and government (public initiatives for public good, focusing on law and order)
Go somewhere! It doesn’t take a lot of money to explore or day trip. Plan ahead and make it happen. There are so many places to visit. I love photography and have often taken solo trips to regroup when I couldn’t convince a friend to join me. Don’t wait for others to discover what’s around the corner.
Keep your side of the street clean! Always live in the truth. Here’s an interesting blog Why We Lie: The Science Behind Our Deceptive Ways
Be grateful! Seriously, this one is important. Find something every day, even on bad days when all you have is a bed to sleep on and a roof over your head. Then wake up and choose to start the day in gratitude because you woke up breathing. In making it that simple on the hard days, you’ll learn to be motivated by less.